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Sonia Turner's avatar

I knew it sounded a little “simple” (judgment) for your thought process but I took it to “the first degree” as one says in French!! I enjoy the experience of people sharing their deepest, darkest secrets, and I engage in the same, however, sometimes it gets turned around into “it’s all about me” and “let’s have psychotherapy all around me.” I’m in the process of working on boundary setting with a fellow psychotherapist

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Bianca van der Meulen's avatar

Ah, that makes total sense! There’s definitely a difference between mutual deep sharing (which sounds wonderful) and someone making every conversation about their crisis without reciprocity or awareness. Sounds like you’re approaching it thoughtfully with your colleague

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Sonia Turner's avatar

Soooo good!! It must be my big brown eyes, lol, but I get trauma dumped on frequently, just before reading this actually, and not by my patients—by regular people!! Makes me feel I’m not alone in this

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Bianca van der Meulen's avatar

I appreciate you engaging! This piece is actually satire—I’m critiquing the whole concept of ‘trauma dumping.’ What we call ‘trauma dumping’ is often just… people being human and needing support. The piece is meant to show how absurd our cultural discomfort with others’ pain has become. But I might have overdone the subtlety 😂

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